This is your invitation to a life that belongs to you & requires no permission.

Break the invisible loyalties and embrace the woman you are at your core.

For the invisible daughters who are done self abandoning and ready to reclaim their

presence, agency & identity

Stop living as an extension of your mother & feel safe to be YOU

This is not about fixing you.
This is a call to the woman within you

The woman who:

She is finished inhabiting the identity she built to survive.
She is ready to fulfill her dreams and desires
She is retiring from over-giving herself to expectations, roles, and conditioning that drain her
She trusts herself, believes in herself, and stays loyal to herself
She wants to live her life, take up space and be seen unapologetically.

Meet Your Guide Yelna

Yelna is the founder of To My Dear Self. With two degrees in Psychology and a Master’s in Counseling, she specializes in identity rebuilding and deep personal transformation, guiding women back to a clear, grounded sense of self. Her work supports women who have not received unconditional, nurturing and safe support from their mothers, instead learned to adapt, over-function, or disconnect from themselves in order to navigate life and relationships.

Through her Self-mothering approach, she teachs women to rebuild self-trust, develop emotional stability, and begin feel more anchored in who they are. Having done this work herself, Yelna brings both professional expertise and lived understanding. Knowing exactly what it means to grow up without a mother's love and presence, she believes that real change doesn’t happen through awareness alone, but through the right support and guidance.

By blending therapeutic frameworks with practical, action-oriented methods, she walks her clients through the process shifting patterns at their root, so change feels clear, supported, and sustainable.

"I created To My Dear Self for women to reconnect with their true selves beneath the masking and performing, to awaken a version of themselves that feels safe to be seen, heard, and valued."

Reclaiming who you are, beyond the “Good Girl” you were taught to be.

Trauma transformation Psychotherapist,

Self reparenting Coach

The line is open. Decide where you want to start.

The Self-Mothering Blueprint: 1:1 Personalized Coaching

understanding + Releasing the old identity

You never truly felt supported. Instead, you learned to mature too fast, becoming the "strong one" for your mother to rely on you. Now, you’re left wondering how that relationship shaped the woman you are today. You have immense potential, but you’re still playing the role of the girl who stays small to keep the peace. This is where we dismantle those old rules and finally unlock the woman you were meant to be. You are so much more than what other's expect you of you.

The blueprint is within you. Take the next step.

Awakening The Woman Within : A 90-Day Group Container

Transformation + Embodiment

You’ve spent years self-analyzing every pattern and you can name every trigger with precision; you know exactly what needs to be done. But despite all that knowledge, you are still over-functioning and living from an automatic survival instinct rather than your true self. Awakening The Woman Within is designed to bridge the gap between your self-awareness and the woman you were always meant to be.

Claim your seat at the table. You Deserve it!

Dear Self Club : Weekly Self-Reminders

Stay Connected + Supported

A weekly personalised letters filled with grounded reminders, perspective shifts, and honest conversations to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your identity, and come back home to who you truly are. No overwhelming advice. No pressure to constantly “fix” this or that. Just thoughtful letters designed to help you feel more clear, confident, self-connected, and empowered in your everyday life.

The old version of you learned that Invisibility = Safety

You know deep down you deserve better than that! Its time to

Rewrite the narrative.

What My Clients Say

With Yelna, I’ve tackled my #momtraum and worked on my eating disorder, becoming more self-aware, reflective, and kinder to myself. Our sessions haven’t just helped me; they’ve also improved my relationship with my husband. I share what I’ve learned with him, helping him understand my emotions better and making our conflicts easier to resolve.

The tools and insights from Yelna have become my go-to in navigating life’s ups and downs. Yelna, your support means the world to me, and I’m so grateful for everything you’ve helped me with!

Shirley

THE PHILOSOPHY OF MY WORK

I believe every woman carries an inner blueprint , a deeper truth, wisdom, identity, and purpose already within her.

But many women were taught to survive instead of truly knowing themselves. They learned to carry the emotional burdens of others, follow inherited expectations, and abandon their own needs in order to feel loved, safe, or accepted.

Over time, this creates a deep disconnection from self, identity, and life itself.

My work is rooted in the belief that healing is not about becoming someone new. It is about returning to the woman you were always meant to be beneath survival, conditioning, and self-abandonment. The woman within you already holds the wisdom, self-trust, clarity, love, and direction you have been searching for.

Through self-reconnection, remothering, and identity embodiment, I help you reawaken that inner blueprint so you can stop living according to inherited scripts and start living in alignment with your own truth, purpose, and inner guidance.

Because the transformation was never outside of you.

You have been carrying it within you all along.

"We are not here to repeat the suffering our mothers endured. We are here to live aligned to our inner purpose and inhabit our true potential. The soul of this work is the reconnection, to ourselves, to each other, and to the world we live in."

Before you had the chance
to become who you truly are…

who did you have to become
for your mother?